LEAN ON ME

Dear readers, I have promised to always share thoughts that will bless you at any time. In this post, I picked up the lyrics of "Lean on Me" by Bill Withers and added some comments that will help us to know we always need someone to lean on. Kindly read, share with friends, and leave your comments. Sometimes in our lives We all have pain, we all have sorrow But if we are wise We know that there's always tomorrow PERSONAL NOTE: ● We can’t be self-sufficient, God has positioned people around us to lean on. ● We can’t be strong all our lives, there will be times when we'll be weak and need someone to lean on to regain our strength. ‘Iron sharpeneth Iron. ● Everyone has issues, problems, and pains. No one should ever feel their issues are more than their neighbor's. ● Frowning doesn't take away your worries or pain. A little smile is therapeutic for you. ● The Bible says joy cometh in the morning after weeping has lasted for a night. Psalm 30:5. Being alive is an opportunity to see brighter and better days. Lean on me when you're not strong And I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on For it won't be long 'Til I'm gonna need somebody to lean on PERSONAL NOTE: ● We must give our shoulders to friends when they are in need. ● A friend in need is truly a friend indeed. We should carry each other’s burden and put smiles on people’s faces. ● Your friend won’t lean on you forever, it’s just for a moment. Learn to receive friends when they need to lean on you. Please, swallow your pride If I have things you need to borrow For no one can fill those of your needs That you won't let show PERSONAL NOTE: ● It doesn’t cost you anything to ask for help when you need to. ● Don’t allow your pride to deprive you of receiving help. ● You can’t have all you need, you still need people around you to help you. ● If you don’t ask for help, it certainly means you don’t need help, which is a big lie. ● When we cry for help at the time we need to, it saves us from unnecessary pain. ● God has positioned people that will meet your needs around you, all you need is to ask. ● Don’t take people for granted when you need help, extortion will only deprive you of getting further help from them. You just call on me, brother, when you need a hand We all need somebody to lean on I just might have a problem that you'll understand We all need somebody to lean on PERSONAL NOTE: ● We are all human. The difference between us is our DNA, genotype, parents, color, or background. It doesn't change the fact that we are brothers and sisters (we are one family) ● No matter how wealthy or healthy you are, you will always need somebody to lean on. ● We all have problems that someone else could understand better. Sharing it with the person will bring solutions when you learn to lean on people. If there is a load You have to bear that you can't carry I'm right up the road, I'll share your load If you just call me PERSONAL NOTE: ● When you carry your burdens alone, it weighs you down. ● Don’t be proud and feel you can do all things alone. Yes, I know the Bible says I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. But the Bible also says to comfort one another. God knows there are moments when we will need someone around us to cheer us up and move on with life. ● We even get discouraged at times with life and all we need is someone to lean on and tell us the future is bright. Remain blessed. AYODEJI ANIFOWOSE Twitter: @gfatherghusband Instagram: @gfather_ghusband, @ayodeji.anifowose Facebook: www.facebook.com/greatfathergreathusband, www.facebook.com/ayodeji.anifowose E-mail: ayollc.company@gmail.com www.ayodejianifowose.com

5 REGRETS WE ALWAYS HAVE ON THE DEATH BED

Hello, readers. I stumbled on some interesting lessons about life and I discovered that we can leave this world without regrets if we do things right. At 3:54 pm on the 31st of December 2011, Bronnie Ware, a nurse who worked for years nursing the dying, revealed the top five regrets people have on their deathbed. I've written them in this post and will attach my notes on each point. 1. "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me". This was the most common regret of all. When people look back and realize that their life is almost over, it is easy to see how many dreams went unfulfilled. Most people have not honoured even half of their dreams and died knowing that it was due to choices they made, or did not make. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize until they no longer have it. PERSONAL NOTE: ● The worst thing you can ever do to yourself is to live your life the way people expect you to live. ● The fact that people will talk should not stop you from living your best life. ● Live your life the way you want, remembering you can never undo what you have done. Think and act wisely, because you have just one life to live. 2. "I wish I didn't work so hard". This came from every male patient that she nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Some women also spoke of this regret. However, as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to reduce your expenses and need for more money. Also, by creating space in your life, you become happier and open to new opportunities that suit your new lifestyle. PERSONAL NOTE: ● Working hard is not working smart. If you spend your whole life building an organization or company without spending time with your family, you can’t enjoy your old age. ● No matter how hard you work for an organization, it can never take the place of your family or love you like your family. Which is your priority? Work or family (wife/husband and children)? ● Spend your time wisely. 3. "I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings". Many people suppressed their feelings to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they harbored. We cannot control the reactions of others. Although people may initially react when you change and start speaking honestly, it eventually raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationships from your life. Either way, you win. PERSONAL NOTES: ● Expressing your feelings will not kill you, it helps you stay out of worries. ● Try to speak when you are in love, angry, upset, or even in need. ● Learn how to speak politely. Hiding or keeping your feelings can cause several illnesses. Express yourself! 4. "I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends". Often, people don't realize the importance of old friends until their dying weeks and it is not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. It is common for anyone with a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with death, the physical details of life fall away. People want to get their finances in order as much as possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things for the benefit of those they love. However, they become too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks. Love and relationships. PERSONAL NOTES: ● We were created for each other, not to live in isolation. ● We need to keep our friends, spend time with them, and also care for them. ● Don’t ever joke with friendship because every friend comes to fulfill a purpose in your life. Discover it and don’t chase them away. 5. "I wish that I had let myself be happier". Surprisingly, this is a common one. Many do not realize that happiness is a choice until the end. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others and themselves that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh heartily and be silly. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you will not matter. How wonderful it'd be to be able to let go and smile again, long before death comes knocking. PERSONAL NOTES: ● Let’s get things right; we all have issues. But some of us try to take the worries out of our minds and remain happy. ● Be happy, it’s a sign of good living. ● No one is ugly, it's only people who refuse to smile or be happy that appear ugly. ● Happiness or smiles brighten your day and make your heart free from all worries or burdens. ● Don’t kill yourself before your time. It costs nothing to smile or be happy. But it is expensive to frown or be sad.